How old is too old to get married for the first time? Yet the Hasidic community hopes that boys will be married by 25 and girls by 21. In the Orthodox world the divorce rate is around 15 per cent, far less than the mainstream. There, they immerse themselves, recite a brief blessing, then immerse again.
Those who don’t find their "Beshert" (soulmate) by that time keep on trying until they find a partner with whom they click. The rate is low for a variety of reasons, but it is surely due in large part to living in a small community where everyone knows each other. The mikvah attendant says 'kosher' after each immersion to let them know that they're fully submerged.
Most are well intended and contain a nugget of truth. Dating is hard enough without sifting through all this erroneous information, so let's debunk some myths.Nowhere, however, does it say that God picked out a spunky brunette whom he's waiting to spring on you at the right moment. When it comes to God, I'm pretty careful about saying what he does or doesn't do.But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer addresses this issue in a wedding sermon he wrote for his sister from a Nazi jail cell.He says that God joins the relationship between a man and a woman at the point of marriage.